The best thing about writing a blog is also the worst thing about writing a blog.
My level of communication is laid open for the world to see. The world might see it and marvel at it {spoiler alert: they don’t}; the world might read it and have more questions than answers. While I am more often sure of the latter than the former, I keep writing. That is because I plan on improving my communication. And the only way I know for sure to do that is to push through until the uncomfortable gives way to the comfortable.
You need to improve your communication when:
An Idea Retold
Surreal, maybe. But when someone restates a thought you already put out there and is received differently than you, something is going on. It isn’t always flattering to hear your ideas repeated back to you, but it is always informative. You either do not have the authority in the current group to offer divergent ideas or you are not communicating your idea clearly the first time. You can independently work on the later. In order to clearly communicate your ideas repetition may be the key. During a meeting strive to say as closely as possible the same thing three times.The more familiar others are with your ideas the more accepting of them they are. When another person in the meeting can predict what you are going to say, they are attributing that idea to you.
Additionally, consider if it is even necessary for you to receive credit. It may be natural to want the acknowledgement, but would you rather make your idea happen or receive credit? Sometimes it is easier to get stuff done when someone else takes up your idea as his/her own. The added bonus, since this is “not your idea” but you are still making to work it happen you appear a team player to the group. Maybe that will help them hear you next time.
Confusion as Feedback
As soon as you send out the email, you start getting questions. email is kind in that way, it provides immediate feedback on confusion you create. How many other forms of communication do you put out which generate confusion over clarity from which you have no feedback?
emails are meant to be proofread until clear to many recipients. Accept length over lack of information. Use text features in emails; headings, bold feature, lists can all clarify and guide the recipients.
Meeting agendas are an opportunity to guide conversations by hierarchy, placement relative to other ideas/concepts, and the portion of the agenda an idea occupies. To craft an agenda is the craft the meeting itself.
The secret of avoiding confusion as feedback is to consider as many points of view as possible when crafting any communication. It helps to have multiple people talking through possible points of confusion on behalf of the audience. Once you know your audience you can work backward to deliver an understandable message based on their background knowledge and guide them toward your ideas.
Organizing isn’t Enough
When you find yourself organizing and reorganizing again, maybe it is time to start from scratch? Consider that the content itself may be inherently confusing. Instead, how can you simplify the information? Consider changing all words to the sense tense. Consider using smaller words. Consider formatting into a list for clarity.
2018-02-20 at 8:38 am
I really needed this post today! I get so annoyed when people don’t understand the points that I make, and I always think it’s their fault. When really, it’s ME who needs to be clearer!
2018-02-20 at 12:04 pm
I think that improving on our communication with EVERYONE is something that we should all be constantly working on. This post is a great foundation for us all to start working on just that! 🙂
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2018-02-20 at 12:46 pm
These are some super good tips! thanks for sharing!
2018-02-20 at 1:06 pm
I find that when I send out any communication that has to be understood by a number of people and with different backgrounds, the simpler the language and sentence structure the easier it is to avoid misunderstanding and confusion. Very often people glaze over when reading long emails and fail to grasp the important bits.
2018-02-20 at 5:27 pm
I have had quite a few of my ideas repeated back to me that I don’t like, but I am working on viewing it as constructive criticism and try to make my idea clearer to start with for more people. I am definitely on a learning curve with this though!
2018-02-20 at 8:33 pm
In marriage communication is key!! I don’t think you can spend enough time improving it!
2018-02-20 at 10:08 pm
Oh gosh, I’ve been working on mine, but my husband should read this. He spends his days on the phone at work and I think sometimes he forgets how to communicate to real people.
2018-02-21 at 7:20 am
Great points! Indeed, it can be quite frustrating when you try your best to communicate with others but they can’t seem to understand what you’re trying to say.
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2018-02-21 at 9:05 am
Communication is really important for our daily living. This a great guide to help us understand each other.
2018-02-21 at 9:46 am
I definitely learned something here, my communication skills could use a reboot. Thanks for sharing it was great!
2018-02-21 at 9:56 am
This post made me smile, as your points are something my communication professor husband champions all the time. Organization is key! So often, we place the blame on others for “not understanding” when we need to clarify our objectives. Great post!!
2018-02-21 at 12:32 pm
it’s so interesting how we all communicate and what we think we’re being clear on. nice thoughts!
2018-02-21 at 2:34 pm
Really great post. There is always room for improvement when it comes to communication. Either from a language barrier or different ideas.
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2018-02-21 at 2:57 pm
These are all such helpful tips for communicating better. Getting lots of questions is definitely an indicator that you weren’t clear the first time round.
2018-02-21 at 4:41 pm
I have also found this with my blog! What I think I’m writing is not always what someone else will read – really working on being more clear and understood. Thanks for the tips!
2018-02-22 at 8:00 am
Not everyone is going to get you, and of course only you can fully understand your words as you meant them. However it is very important that we make ourselves heard to the world!
2018-02-23 at 9:20 am
I think it goes both ways ppl need to spend more time listening and others need to speak more clearly. with both being equally involved the communication line gets tied up
2018-10-08 at 5:47 am
When you find yourself organizing and reorganizing again, maybe it is time to start from scratch? Consider that the content itself may be inherently confusing. Instead, how can you simplify the information? Consider changing all words to the sense tense. Consider using smaller words. Consider formatting into a list for clarity.